Let’s just start with that.
I know about the wondering, and the fears that come at night when no one is watching. I know how many times you’ve looked in the mirror and wondered why this is happening to you. I know how infertility cuts where we are all most vulnerable– right at our identity.
But today, I want to tell you: Happy Mother’s day.
Because motherhood is won in more ways than just bearing children. And sometimes we don’t receive just what we want, but God is still calling us to great things.
On this day when mothers around the world are being celebrated, I want to take a moment to celebrate you. I see the hard road you’re walking (and sometimes barely crawling) down. I know, so well, the taste of the dust and heart-crushing pain from that desert path.
You are fighting a battle that could defeat the greatest warrior, so don’t be ashamed of your tears. Don’t let the enemy keep you trapped in your house, alone in your sorrow. Your battle is real and valid. There is no shame in Christ.
Let’s remember, dear ones, whom we serve.
We serve a God who does great things from sorrow. A God who meets us right in the middle of the hardest parts of our journey and breathes new life into our death. We serve a God who gives mother-love to more than just biological mothers. We serve a God who takes broken dreams and paints glory.
And we serve a God who never gives up on us, even when we’re ready to give up on ourselves.
This mother’s day– we’re not going to just celebrate earth-mothers. We’re going to celebrate heart-mothers too.
So, to all of you who have mothered other people’s children. To all of you who have dreamed of your own babies. To all of you who have said goodbye to your babies far too early. To all of you who are waiting, wondering, hoping… This Mother’s day is for you as well.
You may not have a birth certificate somewhere that states your position, but that doesn’t change who you are. If you carry a mother’s heart, you are a mother.
Embrace what God has given you today. Be faithful with what you have. And trust that the pain you are walking through will one day be redeemed.
Happy, happy Mother’s day, dear ones.
Links for you this Mother’s Day:
- 5 Things to Remember (when the doctor says you’ll never be a mom)
- One Simple Way To Become What You’ve Always Dreamed
- Learning to love Mother’s Day (while facing infertility)
- How to be a Mom (even if you don’t have kids)
- Infertility: Five Years Later
- Infertility is a Joy?
- So, Lord, I’m Turning Thirty and I Still Don’t Have Babies