Recently a pastor’s wife sat me down, explained that a couple in their congregation was pursuing adoption, and then looked intently at me and said, “You’ve adopted twice. In what ways can we show this couple the most support possible?” I’m not sure if I patted her hand or not, but I’m sure I wanted to. And I wanted to sing out a praise. Hallelujah! Someone is asking the right questions of the … [Read more...] about 3 Essential Ways to Support Adopting Families
My grip on his shoulder was rapidly turning from “directive” and “connecting” to let me remind you how furious I am right now. I let go immediately and he moved ten feet away from me. It was dark outside, but the moon was full and bright so his posture of fear and detachment was perfectly clear. Oh, Lord, my heart started praying, I wasn’t going to get here again. I wasn’t going to let him … [Read more...] about Grace Can Be Found No Matter Where You Are
The moment I became an adoptive parent, I was already questioning myself. And every little while I would just stumble into full-blown panic. What if we weren't successful as parents? What if our children didn't follow the Lord? What if they grew up and rejected everything we taught them? What if they never overcame their past? What if they never accepted us as family? What if we screw … [Read more...] about How to Measure Your Success in Life
My children represent nations. Isn’t that crazy to think about? Everyone’s child represents a nation of people, but when you adopt in other cultures and people groups, suddenly you have nations growing up in your home. And one thing I’ve learned about God is this: His heart is for the nations to know Him. It’s the heartbeat of the Old Testament that pumps out into the New—spilling … [Read more...] about How to Topple Giants and Reclaim Nations
Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a condition found in children who did not form a healthy emotional attachment to their primary caregivers during specific developmental stages in growth. If you've dipped your toes in the adoptive world, you probably sensed that it's a bit of a controversy over who exactly should be given this diagnosis-- but if you happen upon a family that has a child … [Read more...] about We all have R.A.D.
We were standing in Tractor Supply looking at the totes of baby chicks when my husband said it. “You can get chickens if you want.” I looked at him in disbelief. Before we were married he had talked of his abhorrence of chickens. “They’re dirty and carry disease and they cost more than they save,” he told me. It was always simple in my mind. We had a farm but we didn’t have chickens. I … [Read more...] about Growing the Gift of Mothering