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  1. We’re experiencing infertility and so for the past year and a half, my husband has seen me worried, cried, struggled, faithful and trusting. I too wondered if he ever felt the same way because he didn’t speak much of it. But he listened to what I said, to my cries, complaints and praising God. When we would check our pregnancy test if it’s positive, he was there with me, anxious and excited. Then when we see it negative, he’s there with me disappointed yet hopeful. He’s expressed to me his fear of becoming a father if God grants it and I love him for that. Because it reminds both of us that only God can enable us.

  2. I’ve read this one several times now because I can so identify with it. My husband is so strong that sometimes it seems like it doesn’t bother him nearly as much as it bothers me that we aren’t having children. He sees me cry, he sees me hurt, and he is there with open arms and an “I know. I’m sorry.” and sometimes I wonder if he actually does know…. But of course, he does. He just knows how badly I want children and doesn’t want to talk about how badly he wants them as well, just so as not to upset me.

    Several months ago, he woke up on a Saturday morning, and I could tell something was wrong. Eventually, he told me that he dreamed we had kids. A little boy and a little girl. He saw them playing in our yard, and we were all so happy. It felt so real that when he first woke up, he wondered if it might be true. Then, he began to cry. Of course, I started crying too, and we sat there for at least 45 minutes, and just cried together. It was then I realized that he hurts just as much as I hurt. He longs for children just as much as I do. Although that was a hard day, it has helped me to pray much better for him. I’m not alone. We’re facing this together…..and we are the better for it!

  3. Amen. Two years of dealing with ruptured discs in his back, several years of infertility. Definitely tough times, but we got through them together and are stronger for it.

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      and, now you’re raising a passel of beautiful children. 🙂

      I love seeing and hearing about your family adventures. Your hardships have definitely made you approachable and gentle. <3

  4. Beautifully said. The male perspective on infertility has been heavy on my heart lately. I remember wondering how my husband and I would ever get through it…but by the grace of God, as you so aptly put, he understood my worst heartache and walked thru it with me. We got stronger together, made powerful decisions together and are the best of friends because of our shared struggle. Blessings to you as your story continues to unfold.

  5. We’ve experienced financial struggles (nothing that God hasn’t blessed us through) in our first year-and-three-quarters of marriage that I’d never had before. And yet he is strong with me through it, even when I know it hurts him sometimes, too. We lean on each other, and we point each other to Christ, and lean on Him together. That’s all there is to do, but that’s all we need.

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      We’ve walked this road as well. And God has been faithful to knit us tight together through it. <3

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