Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) is a condition found in children who did not form a healthy emotional attachment to their primary caregivers during specific developmental stages in growth. If you've dipped your toes in the adoptive world, you probably sensed that it's a bit of a controversy over who exactly should be given this diagnosis-- but if you happen upon a family that has a child … [Read more...] about We all have R.A.D.
We were standing in Tractor Supply looking at the totes of baby chicks when my husband said it. “You can get chickens if you want.” I looked at him in disbelief. Before we were married he had talked of his abhorrence of chickens. “They’re dirty and carry disease and they cost more than they save,” he told me. It was always simple in my mind. We had a farm but we didn’t have chickens. I … [Read more...] about Growing the Gift of Mothering
H e said your name wrong. Many people do and so many times I have corrected them. I want them all to say it right because it is so beautiful and so exclusively you. But today someone said it and I didn't correct him. I opened my mouth, started to speak, and then shut it quietly. It's been years since you were in our home. Four long years since you danced through the front yard and played … [Read more...] about Failed Adoption, Four Years Later
I feel lost. Those were the words I scrawled into my journal years ago. When infertility and struggling friendships and a new church were all leaving me aching and empty. I felt unknown. Who was this girl who couldn’t bear the children she dreamed of? Who was this girl who struggled through friendships? Who was this girl who went to church and cowered in the corner? I didn’t know her, … [Read more...] about where to go when you feel lost
I almost felt irritated the first time I heard my mom pray it. It wouldn't be until years later that I realized she was just agreeing with Scripture. But that night I lay there, listening to the words as they rested heavy on me. I shrugged and drifted off to sleep, wondering if God would answer her. The prayer was simple and heartfelt. "Lord, don't allow my daughter to keep any sin hidden. … [Read more...] about One Thing You Need to be Praying Over Your Kids
Being an adoptive parent has been one of the most beautiful things I have ever experienced. It's also one of the hardest. I have been abundantly blessed by having many pioneers in adoption, attachment, and special needs who have gone before me and have willingly given their advice, suggestions, and exuberant encouragement. Still, with all of that, there are times when this feels … [Read more...] about the best books for Christian adoptive parents