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  1. I have been reading your posts for 3 hours now and each one is equally encouraging. It’s almost like you are reading my mind or my heart. You just have a way to put it all into words that are so beautiful. Thanks so much for each and every word.

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Oh, Emily, thank you!! {hugs}

  2. oh my…… you wrote this last year and it’s making me cry today! You see, I have these nephews…. and they love me & they love to learn about Jesus from me. Yet I know that they are not really “my boys,” and they could be gone from my life at any time. So hard!!

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      How I understand. {hugs} I pray that your influence will change their lives.

  3. I just found your blog through a friend who shared your most recent post on her FB page. That one was movingly honest, but this one brought me to my knees. I’ve been attending a lot of very exclusive pity parties in the darkest corner of my bed recently, anguishing over what God has not placed in my life to this point. This post reminded me of the students and colleagues who stop in my office daily – for encouragement, for advice, for friendship, because they consider it a place of peace, because they know I am never too busy to listen. Thank you for reminding me that what I do everyday with 90+ children, teens, and young teachers IS mothering. Thank you for reminding me that each of those shared dreams, fears, hopes, tears, hugs, laughs, and sighs is a gift to be treasured. I’ve been singing a lot of Queen (Somebody to Love) lately. Thank you for reminding me that my life is overflowing with lovely, loving people. I am blessed and overwhelmed!

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Oh, SaraBeth–
      I’m so thankful for this sweet encouragement. I think this was one of the most difficult posts I’ve ever written, and I’m so thankful that it touched you. {hugs}

  4. catching up on some blog reading. This is beautiful. So much of my own heart here – – the hurtful “you’ll only understand when you have a child of your own” statements break my heart in two.

  5. Wow that’s truth right there. My heart is hurting because I feel the same way and my selfishness just got exposed. I haven’t had the opportunity to care for other children, but I’m struggling right now to rejoice with loved ones who are pregnant and/or who have children. I rejoice with them but I hurt inside. I appreciate the reminder that we love not for us, but for Him. I rejoice for Him, not for me. Ahhhh this waiting is painful. I hurt because of the thought that I’m told I’m not a mother because I don’t have a child of my own. Yet when you tell them there are many ways a woman can be a mother, you’re perceived as bitter. Painful, but I’m thankful for His grace. I’m unable to extend grace if not for Him.

    Thank you again for this reminder.

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Oh, Claire, I understand. {hugs}

  6. Tasha, the interweaving in this post of pain and beauty, sorrow and truth, longing and discovery have my heart aching, tears pressing and falling, head nodding in agreement. I find elements of this struggle in the journey of adoption. Yes, she is my daughter… but I share her with another mother. Yes, I do have the awesome privilege of teaching and raising her but that gives me no bonus earthly mothering merits… nor does it guarantee that her heart will always be towards me or the Heavenly Father I try so hard to point her to.

    You are so wise to recognize that mothering is a gift but it doesn’t cure and fix all of our heart’s longings. Tasha, I love how you share the truth and victories that God gifts your open heart with. But you also share the pain and struggles that are such a normal and unavoidable part of infertility. Thanks!!!

  7. So true of any of our relationships…why put ourselves out there again and again, if we’re only going to be hurt AGAIN. Why love when there will always be pain?

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Thank you, Ashlie!!! I look forward to getting to know you.

  8. Natasha, I am cheering for you, praying for you and loving the mother in you. I feel the ache of your heart as you write these very transparent words…knowing your journey is your own.. But because I’ve been there… I know. I know. Take heart dear sister. your love for those boys, your boys, Is the stuff of eternity. you are a daily outpouring of eternity for them. Know that it makes a difference and know that YOUR prayers are heard in heaven. Your hearts cry is heard.

  9. Oh sweet girl. I loved everything about this post. Bless you for your honesty, transparency, and your clinging to Jesus even when you feel like kicking and screaming on the inside. Such a tender topic, and you say it so well. You brought tears to my eyes!! I can’t tell you how glad I am to have “met” you through this online space…you are a beautiful soul, and anyone who gets to have even a minute as a part of your life is blessed for it!!

  10. Oh honey! Thank you for your honesty and transparency. Honestly, in a small way, this is how I feel every year when a new group of students comes and goes from my classroom, but still my womb stays empty. Some days I grieve. Some days I rage. And some days I praise. Hugs to you! He understands…the one who gave up His only Son.

  11. Oh, my! Tears in my eyes and admiration in my heart. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: You, my friend, are an incredible mother. Far more of a loving mother than so many. You are such a blessing to those little guys and to me!

  12. I didn’t want to press the like button because I don’t want to like this post. I don’t want to love when it hurts. I’m tired of giving my heart to people who are going to throw it on the ground and walk away when they have all they need from me. I’m tired of seeing the little boy that I grew to love, at church for split seconds, and not being able to pick him up and love on him. I hate the fact that he started calling me Mommy, and that I had to give him back to a woman who yells at him and doesn’t play with him and love on him. I hate that after I became his Mom is his eyes, I had to let him go because it was too much for my family to bear. I hate that my son hasn’t gotten to have a play date with his little friend. I hate that I opened my heart and it got crushed like I knew it was going to 3 years ago. I’m tired of hurting. But I know that my having him for that little while opened up his parents eyes, and his life should be better now.

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Oh, Symanntha. I hear you. Every single word. I wish I could give you a long tight hug.

      May the Lord take every moment, every sacrifice, every tear– and not let a single one fall to the ground. May there be a harvest 50x, 100x, and 200x what was sown.

      1. Thank you Natasha. God is moving things around in my life, and I know that I just need to trust Him because He is arranging my future, but it is hard sometimes. Sometimes I feel like I am the only one who gives and everyone else is just taking. Thank you for this post.

  13. One definition I found for mother was originator; creator or founder of something. You have birthed that spark for the Lord in those boys. Their hearts will seek Him because you planted the seeds and continuously water them with your love and gentleness. You are an originator; a faithful seed planter; the nurturing water for 3 boys. Natasha, you ARE a mother.

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Love that definition. Thank you, thank you. I’m writing it down right this very moment.

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Yes. I think that’s what God has been showing me these past few weeks. It’s true for me, but it’s also true for every other mother. None of us know the future. We all have just today. And it must all, every last little taste, be for His glory.

  14. Beautiful once again, Natasha. And this applies far beyond those precious children you care for. God calls us to love. Not for our sakes, or even for the sakes of those we’re trying to love, but for Him. It can be so hard sometimes. I needed this reminder today, so thank you. And blessings on you and your divinely orchestrated “family”…

    1. Natasha Metzler says:

      Oh, Erin, thank you. They are a divinely orchestrated family and I will cling to that. And you’re right. It applies so much further and so much deeper. It’s all for Him.

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