Dear Adoptive Mom

I wrote some letters over the past few years. Letters that I’m going to share with you over the next few months.

I know all of you who read this blog aren’t adoptive parents, but I know some of you are. I know more of you long to be. I know almost all of you probably know and love someone who has adopted.

Not all children who are adopted have trouble attaching to their new family, but when they do– there’s no escaping the physical, emotional, and spiritual toll it takes on everyone.

I also know that when you’re in the middle of difficult circumstances, the enemy’s lie is that you’re all alone. That nobody understands. That there is something wrong with just you.

I know this lie well because it’s a big one in facing infertility.

And, of course, it turns out it’s actually the big lie that the enemy feeds us through every hard thing.

But it’s also absolutely wrong.

We’re not alone.

We’re not alone because of other people, naturally, and because there is “nothing new under the sun” as the preacher in Ecclesiastes reminds us. But it’s more than that.

We’re not alone, ever, because God is near. Always. Every second.

Through all the sadness and frustration, through all the slicing pain we experience and all the emptiness and loss and anger and… Yeah. All of the bad stuff. All the good stuff too (though the lie doesn’t attack quite as intensely there).

He’s here.

To everyone of you wading through the agony of attachment disorders with foster or adoptive children:

I am praying these letters will edify and encourage and remind you that you’re not alone.

You’re not alone because there are other moms out there facing the same things.

And most of all, you’re not alone because the Father is near.

The same Father who is healing the broken attachments inside each of us, is beside you.

And my hope is that these letters will remind you of that truth, even as they equip and encourage you to keep doing Kingdom work from the midst of your hard place.

If you’re a blog reader but adoption isn’t part of your life:

I pray you will still be edified through these letters. That you will share them with adoptive or foster moms around you. That you will be filled with compassion and gentleness for the women who are walking this journey.

That you will still find encouragement for the hard things in your life, even if your story is different.

Because Jesus is the same. So the Jesus stuff? It all applies, no matter what your life looks like.

I am looking forward to sharing with you in the days to come.

So many blessings,

Natasha

To the Adoptive Mom Who Feels Like She Has to Choose Between Her Kids

To the Adoptive Mom Who Is Bombarded with Negative Words

To the Adoptive Mom With a Struggling Marriage

To the Adoptive Mom Feeling the Weight of Other People’s Opinions

To the Adoptive Mom Struggling to Love her Traumatized Child